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Middle School Made Me Resilient and Other Life Lessons from Those Awkward Years

July 21, 2019 By Katy 5 Comments

Phew.

That’s me wiping my brow because my daughter survived her first year of middle school.

Yet, she’s got two more years to endure, so fingers crossed that they treat her kindly.

I wrote the post I’m sharing below last year before she started 6th grade. It originally appeared on Your Teen and I’m grateful for everyone who said it really resonated with them and their kids.

May its appearance on my blog help you reframe and reclaim your middle school experience!

Here we go:

“She’s nervous,” I told my coworker about my daughter, 11, as we sat outside on a warm day eating lunch. “Who can blame her? She’s going to middle school.”

“Middle school was awesome,” my coworker said, her voice laden with sarcasm. “I had braces and wore glasses and a back brace.”

“I wore braces, too,” I commented. “And I was the tallest kid in 7th grade. Boys called me the Jolly Green Giant.”

She nodded, chewing thoughtfully on her sandwich. I think I saw her shudder.

But that’s when it hit me. I looked at the two of us, all these years later, both successful at work and fulfilled with families and activities that we loved.

What if middle school didn’t crush us after all? What if the physical awkwardness and social mishaps of middle school taught us invaluable life lessons that prepared us for our lives today? 

I think the answer is that it did. And I can’t wait to tell my daughter why.

Middle school teaches resilience

You will fail in middle school. Maybe it’s a bad grade in algebra or being cut from the volleyball team. But you go back to middle school every day. You study harder and get help. You shake off the tryout and try something else. You fall down and get back up. You become resilient.

Middle school teaches conflict resolution

Conflicts, like someone using your pen without permission or cutting in front of you in the cafeteria line, happen daily in middle school. Do you avoid or accommodate the situation? Mediate or challenge it? Each day provides an opportunity to work on communicating your side of the story and empathizing with the other side. The conflict may not resolve itself every time, but the chances to learn and grow are there.

Note: bullying is a form of conflict that is never okay. You should always talk to a teacher or trusted adult about bullying and be involved with your school to create and promote a safe environment for everyone.

Middle school teaches self-acceptance

I still remember when a boy made of fun of butt in 8th grade, taunting me that it was flat compared to the other girls. But the truth? My less than curvaceous derriere didn’t bother me. It still doesn’t, even in a Kim Kardashian world. Middle school is when you get to decide what you like or accept about yourself, regardless of what others think.

Middle school shows you what a true friend looks like

Middle school friendships can be sources of comfort and support, but they also can be sources of pain and confusion. Did your supposed best friend reject you this week? Learn from it and choose someone kinder to be in your life. Middle school teaches you that you deserve friends that treat you well, friends that encourage you rather than tear you down.

So as my daughter heads towards a new adventure in middle school, I will be there to remind her that the lessons and experiences of middle school, although they may be hard or uncomfortable, will mold her, not crush her. That middle school will teach her to become resilient, embrace change, deal with conflict, accept herself, and learn what makes a true friend.

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  1. Jen says

    July 23, 2019 at 10:21 am

    All true! I was super tall too. Look what middle school prepares us for! Maybe we should def. take some time to say thanks for our awkward years 🙂

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    • Katy says

      July 23, 2019 at 1:10 pm

      I guess hindsight makes us realize we are stronger than we think. And we were taller. Definitely we were taller. 🙂

      Reply
  2. Rebecca Hastings says

    July 23, 2019 at 1:05 pm

    Oh, Middle School! You couldn’t pay me to go back! LOL

    But you are so right about the lessons we learn from the hard seasons and places we walk through!

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    • Katy says

      July 23, 2019 at 1:09 pm

      I wouldn’t go back either! I’m hoping it’s gentler on my daughter than it was on me. 🙂

      Reply

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