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Ode to the Mom Who Didn’t RSVP

November 14, 2016 By Katy 31 Comments

‘Twas the night before my kid’s birthday party

And all through the house,

This mother was scurrying,

Thinking you were a louse.

 

The goody bags had been made

With the utmost of care

In hopes that 8 friends

At the party would be there.

 

But would there be 9?

The question remained.

You could drop off your child,

But from RSVP – ing you’d refrained.

 

So I’d purchased 8 more

Plates, napkins and cups

Spending more cash I didn’t have

In case your kid shows up.

A poem for any mom who got fed up when someone didn't RSVP! Ode to the Mom Who Didn't RSVP

I even told the party venue,

“Hold an extra space.”

All the time wondering,

Will we see your kid’s face?

 

I made extra cupcakes,

Gluten-free because I’d heard,

Your child may have that allergy

And I didn’t want to be a turd.

 

It’s just too bad

You couldn’t squeeze in a reply.

We couldn’t invite everyone,

So those left out are having a cry.

 

Will your kid show up or not?

I really have no clue.

Thanks for your rudeness.

The world revolves around you.

 

So I stress and I fret,

Running numbers in my head

Thinking “How many will come?”

As I lie down on my bed.

 

But all I can do,

As I hope for a good night,

Is wish “Happy Birthday!” to my child

While I curse you out of sight.

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  1. Terra Heck says

    November 14, 2016 at 12:56 am

    Yes, yes, and yes! It takes no time at all to RSVP and it would be nice if people would take a smidgen out of their day to say whether they’ll be there or not. It stinks not having enough or having entirely too much.
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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:34 am

      I know, right? Just make up your mind and let us know!

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  2. Lou says

    November 14, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Ha! As funny as ever. This just reminded me that I need to go and RSVP to a 5th birthday party….

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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:32 am

      Nice to hear from you! Now make sure you go and RSVP…

      Reply
  3. Jeanne says

    November 14, 2016 at 8:38 am

    I Love This…Sadly, So True.

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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:33 am

      Thanks, and yes, sadly so true!

      Reply
  4. Kirsty - Winnettes says

    November 14, 2016 at 9:15 am

    It would have at least been polite to RSVP even if it is to say they won’t be attending! Did the child show up?
    #GlobalBlogging

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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:34 am

      My experience is that if you don’t hear from them, they aren’t coming. But you never know, right? What if they do come??

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  5. Tee says

    November 14, 2016 at 12:11 pm

    We’re not at the party stage yet but I can imagine this is so annoying. It’s seems rude not to RSVP when so much effort goes into it! #globalblogging
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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 1:17 pm

      There will come a time when you are going to a party every weekend, it feels. So on the one hand I know that it just slips between the cracks for a few people. But, when you are planning the party you just need to know!

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  6. Kelly L McKenzie says

    November 14, 2016 at 1:00 pm

    Such a pain. I’m assuming you didn’t have their contact number or email. I truly hope they didn’t turn up. But that doesn’t help in the sleep department the night before when all you can think about is “what if they show up?” And btw – you have a talent for poetry … Loved it.
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    • Katy says

      November 14, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      This happened more than once over the years. It was classmates that my kids wanted to come, but I didn’t necessarily know the parents well. Chalk it up to another parenting experience that fueled my creativity!

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  7. Lisa Pomerantz says

    November 15, 2016 at 5:09 am

    Oh how right you are, and how guilty we are. I always think the Mrs. is doing it, handling the social calendar and whatnot–and I delete the email only to find out that we are those louses you speak of! Yikes. Thank you for this post. You just made me a better mom with one read! <3 #GlobalBlogging

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    • Katy says

      November 15, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      Hee hee! Here’s to better mom-dom. And, I’m not so hardened that I don’t realize folks are busy and it could slip through the cracks. But it’s happened 3 different times now and it drives me batty. #globalblogging

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  8. Jen says

    November 15, 2016 at 8:18 am

    Oh my gosh yes! We just had a part on Friday for my 9 year old and one of the parents never responded even after I emailed them with a time change, but the kids showed up…. Grrr.

    Good luck on your party!
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    • Katy says

      November 15, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      I will tell you that in my experience the non-RSVPs don’t come. But what if they do? Or did as in your case. Sigh.

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  9. The Rambler says

    November 15, 2016 at 10:26 am

    I always hated this. I also worked for a restaurant and handled all our special events and it surprised me how “surprised” the non RSVP guests would react when we didn’t have a seat for them. I felt bad for the hosts who stressed out looking at me to make magic happen (and we did…somehow). Sigh….I raise a glass of something strong to you. Fellow mom. #happynowlinkup
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    • Katy says

      November 15, 2016 at 2:51 pm

      It is…hard! I totally feel for those people having shindigs at a restaurant. Big bucks and big stress about the non-RSVPers.

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  10. WebMDiva says

    November 15, 2016 at 11:56 am

    LOL!!! You just killed the poetry game! Standing ovation to you! Hope you’re having a great week.
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    • Katy says

      November 15, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      Well, thank you! So glad you enjoyed my verse!

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  11. One Messy Mama says

    November 17, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    LOVED this! I understand that sometimes parents forget! Hell, I have 4 kids and preggy brain!! So what I do, is the second that invite is received I diarize and reply! Only because I know first hand how frustrating it can be! And as you say expensive!!! It’s just polite really, not just for kids parties, but for any invitation to any event! #globalblogging
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  12. Marina @ Parental Journey says

    November 18, 2016 at 4:00 am

    I don’t know why is it so hard to just rsvp.. I hope THE MOM will see her ode..
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  13. Marva | SunSparkleShine says

    November 18, 2016 at 1:51 pm

    Oh my! I hope to not be that mom, but I’m pretty sure I have already. 🙁
    As the host it’s awful not knowing and it’s just too bad party bags only come in sets of 8. 🙂
    #HappyNow Linkup
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  14. Leslie says

    November 18, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    I feel like such a louse now. There have been too many times that I missed an RSVP deadline because I was trying to coordinate child care for my other kids, but never got it all worked out. Off now to RSVP for the latest birthday party invitation. Thanks for the reminder!
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  15. Jenny @ Unremarkable Files says

    November 18, 2016 at 9:23 pm

    It was nice of you to reserve a spot anyway. If I don’t hear an RSVP one way or the other, I just assume they’re not coming. And looks like they won’t have a goody bag!
    #happynowlinkup
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  16. Alie says

    November 19, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    Very funny! We had one RSVP but then not show. Didn’t email or text to say something came up. Equally as rude.

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  17. Marissa says

    November 20, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Or just check with them that they got the invite…

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    • Katy says

      November 21, 2016 at 11:18 am

      Novel point. 😉 More than one parent has failed to RSVP over the years. Plus, once I even did confirm they got the invitation and they still never let me know one or the other.

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  18. Christine Carter says

    November 28, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    Oh yes… It’s an ongoing issues for us all! I never understand why this has to happen. ARG!!

    *Did the GF Non-RSVPer show up? I gotta know!
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    • Katy @ Experienced Bad Mom says

      November 28, 2016 at 1:49 pm

      Well, this has happened more than once over the years. The time in particular that pushed me over the edge? My daughter’s kindergarten year. I even saw the dad at a school event and asked him if they got the invitation. He said yes and that his wife would reply. I never got a reply and the kid never showed up. Whatcha gonna do? Except write poetry. 🙂
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